Failure is important because, without it, success wouldn’t taste as sweet. That may be hard to hear if you have recently failed at something, but you will be able to overcome the failure you are facing if you choose to do so. A few bumps in the road make the journey more interesting and make you fight a little harder.
Achievements are what you will be recognized and remembered for. Overcoming failure to reach an achievement is what builds the character and belief to keep pushing for more in life.
Below are 8 strategies to help you overcome failure so you can keep learning, progressing and fighting for what you deserve.
1. Understand Why You Failed And Learn From Your Mistakes
After you fail, you may be eager to jump right back on the horse as they say and start the journey again. However, first, you must take the time to realize why you failed. Analyze the decisions that led to your failure to prevent it from happening again.
When you fail, you often already have a good understanding of why it happened. However, be sure to take the necessary time to figure this out if you are unsure.
The best way to do this is to work backward’s from your failure. As you worked to achieve your goal, where did you have success, and where did you struggle. Focus on the areas that you struggled with.
While not always the case, more often than not you fail because you didn’t put in the required amount of effort to achieve the results you were looking for.
This does not imply that you are lazy. It just means that you might not have your priorities aligned with your goals, or how you choose to spend your time.
Perhaps you have too much on the go, or that that you need to be better at planning. Maybe what you were trying to accomplish took more effort than you were able to give or thought was necessary. In some cases, you might have even given up.
When you recognize the reasons you failed, you have a better understanding of where to focus your efforts next time. With that being said, don’t forget the things you did well the first time.
You did them well because you put in the required amount of time and effort that was necessary. Don’t neglect them the second time around as you focus more on the areas that you initially struggled with.
2. Realize Failure Is Part Of The Process – It Is Inevitable
It is inevitable that at some point along your journey to success that you will fail. In fact, the more successful you become, the more times you will fail.
An important step to overcome failure is to recognize that failure is part of the process. Without failure, you would never improve, never get better, never question why you did things a certain way.
Although everyone wants to achieve what they set out for the first time around, you wouldn’t have much character, grit, or determination if everything came so easily.
When you realize that failure is inevitable, you almost expect it to happen. And when you expect it to happen, you don’t take it so personally if you do fail.
The journey to overcome failure and experience success is where you learn and grow as an individual. Accomplishing the goal is just the cherry on top, the journey to achieving it is what makes it worth it.
3. Accept That You Have Failed – Don’t Distract Yourself From The Emotions
It is important to feel the emotions that failure brings. You may try to distract yourself to mask how you are actually feeling.
However, be sure to accept your failures and give yourself some time to experience the emotions they cause. The level of emotion you will feel will depend on the severity of the failure and the consequences that come with it.
When you feel the emotions of failure, you can store them in your memory for next time. Remembering the feelings and emotions can provide some extra motivation as you attempt to achieve your goal for the second time.
4. Find Motivation In Your Failure
A helpful way to overcome your failure is to find motivation in it. For many people, maybe yourself included, failure is one of the biggest motivating factors to later achieve success.
You may struggle to come to terms with the fact that you were not initially able to accomplish what you set out to do. Furthermore, the thought of failing a second time as you work towards achieving the same goal is even worse.
As a result, the failure can motivate you to go the extra mile the second time around to ensure you change the outcome. You now have a point to prove to yourself and maybe to those around you as well.
After you have taken the necessary time to accept your failure, return to your goals more motivated and determined than you previously were, in order to achieve them.
5. Talk About Your Failure To Others
Try talking about your failures to others. Many times it helps to voice your opinions and get them off your chest.
Instead of listening to the thoughts in your head over and over again, say how you are feeling out loud. Talking about your failure can help in many different ways.
Firstly, when you can talk about your failures, it helps you come to terms with what happened. It helps you stop dwelling on the thoughts inside your head.
Like with many scenarios in life, it is better to express your emotions instead of bottling them up inside. Talking about your failure to someone you can trust will help you realize it isn’t the end of the world.
Sure, some failures have bigger consequences than others. However, tomorrow will be a new day and your life will still go on, regardless of what you did or didn’t achieve.
Sharing your failure with others can give you some perspective. Maybe it isn’t as big of a deal as you are making it out to be in your head.
Secondly, talking about your failures can help others learn and be motivated by them. Sharing with your friends or colleagues could help them with the issues that they are facing.
They could draw motivation from your determination to achieve what you have previously failed. Or if they are following a similar path to you, they could learn from your mistakes, so they don’t experience the same results.
6. Find A Mentor – Others Have Failed Before You
If you fail at something, there is a good chance that there have been plenty of people before you that have also had the same troubles. If not the same, then something very similar.
Unless you are at the forefront of a new technology that no one else has experienced, there will be many different individuals who have previously been through the failure that you are dealing with. Find someone who can relate to what you are trying to overcome and reach out to them for their guidance, leadership, and mentorship.
Learn from how they were able to overcome difficult times to continue to grow and progress. It could be a senior mentor from work, an older relative, a friend, or even someone in an online community you are apart of.
When you can speak to someone who has already walked the path that you are experiencing, it will help you recognize that it is possible to overcome your failure.
You might have initially failed, but you can find motivation in the fact that others have achieved what you are trying to. If one person can do it, so can you.
7. Focus On The Journey, Not The Destination
While goals are important targets to work towards, the journey to obtain a goal is generally more valuable than the actual outcome. The journey as you work to achieve anything of importance is where learning and progress happens.
It is where you realize how hard you need to work to be successful, how determined you need to be as you chase your dreams, and how failure is part of the process.
If you focus solely on the end goal, you forget to acknowledge all the skills you have picked up along the way. Achieving the goal is a moment to recognize what your hard work has amounted to, but you will soon forget about it as you set bigger goals tomorrow.
While it is sure nice to arrive at the top of the mountain, the real memories and experiences occur on the climb up. Don’t forget to recognize this while you are working to overcome failure in your life.
You might have failed in this instance, but the skills and knowledge you picked up throughout the journey will help you have a better chance of success when you try again.
8. You Haven’t Actually Failed Unless You Give Up
Unless your failure has made you decide to give up pursuing whatever it is that you are chasing, you haven’t failed. When you are unsuccessful at achieving a goal you have set, you should look at this as more of a setback or a roadblock, not a failure.
Failure occurs when you decide to stop taking action. When the setbacks and roadblocks persuade you to stop going after what is yours, that is a failure.
Everything else is merely a speedbump on your journey to achieving your goals.
The realization that there are 86,400 seconds each day. What are you doing today, so that tomorrow you are a step closer to where you want to be? If not now, then when?
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