It can be difficult to make big and even small decisions in your life quickly. There are so many options and paths to follow. So many things you can pursue. As a result, it’s easy to feel lost and uncertain as you choose what to do next in your life. So, how can you be more decisive?
You want to take the time to make good choices, of course. And some decisions can be made better if you think them over. But there is a time limit for every choice. You do not want to take too long to decide on something and then miss out on an opportunity.
Really, being decisive is important if you want to actually take action and make changes in your life. Waiting around stuck in indecision, or stuck not making a choice can close doors for you.
Additionally, this can lead to further unhappiness and lost time. In this article, we’ll review 7 helpful methods to help you be more decisive. This way you can live your life to the fullest.
1. Master Small Decisions First
No one becomes decisive overnight. In fact, it is better to build up your decision-making skills gradually. This way you learn to be decisive at a reasonable and manageable pace.
In any case, most people have trouble making small decisions. Your behavior, when faced with big decisions, is usually mirrored in less stressful situations. So it’s likely that you already have trouble with smaller decisions in your life.
Furthermore, when you start small with less important decisions, you have more room for learning and error as well.
A big decision carries a large weight with it. It can even result in a complete life change. There is less room for mistakes in these cases. But when you start with a smaller choice, there is far less pressure on you.
You can think and act fast without much worry about the consequences. As a result, you can even make more mistakes.
Really, you learn the best when you make an error and learn how to fix it.
Start with smaller decisions like what you are wearing for the day, or what you want to eat, or what you say to someone. These types of decisions can prepare you for more pressing choices. All of these things can teach you how to deal with life on a smaller scale.
To practice this effectively, try making quick choices. Decide on things within thirty seconds. Do this over and over, and move slowly to bigger choices.
Working on these smaller items will help train your brain. Eventually, you will work and become more decisive, even with larger decisions that have significant consequences.
2. Be Decisive In Your Comfort Zone
Of course, you want to challenge yourself and push yourself to be better in new situations. There is absolutely a time and a place to do this. But sometimes it can be helpful to practice decision making in a zone of comfort.
It can be hard enough trying to change and develop. Especially if you have a multitude of other responsibilities to handle, this can be made even harder.
You don’t have to make this process more complicated for yourself. If you have a ton of things going on at work, or you are swamped with family problems. It’s okay to wait for your life to calm down a bit before you start practicing your decision-making skills.
It might seem counterintuitive, as you want to be deciding on things in your life faster. But sometimes it takes time to hone these skills. It’s fine to slow down, so you have the proper energy and motivation to work on yourself. This can actually lead to better results.
You are freer to make mistakes and will feel less pressure while practicing your skills. But decisions made in this zone of comfort can also help you tackle some bigger choices that you are more comfortable with.
This includes decisions that are challenging or difficult. However, since you have waited until you have more time or energy, you can more clearly figure out what to do.
Still, if you are worried that you will put off decision making, and won’t get around to this. It can be helpful to block off some time to make decisions. Set a time and place to be decisive so you can follow through on your aims comfortably and productively.
3. Be Kind To Yourself – You Will Make Mistakes
Learning to efficiently make small and big decisions are important. Still, you do not need to beat yourself up as you go through this process of learning.
Decisiveness is something that you acquire over time. It requires patience, diligence, and understanding to be practiced well. So you don’t want to rush yourself or put yourself down.
When you make the wrong choice, it’s natural to want to criticize yourself of course. Most people talk to themselves in a negative way after they mess up.
However, if you are constantly berating yourself over small mistakes, you will make it harder to stick to your goals. You will also make it difficult to gain the confidence needed to make sound decisions with precision.
To progress forward, the best thing you can do is be kind to yourself.
Maybe you pick a terrible tasting meal when you tried to practice quick decision making. Maybe the movie you chose wasn’t worth the money. Don’t jump to judgment right away.
Regardless of your choice, you should try to be proud of yourself. Focus on the fact that you were actually able to make a quick decision.
Positive thinking goes a long way. And even if the results weren’t perfect, you were able to make an improvement. That is what is crucial.
Know that over time, you will get better at making choices for yourself rapidly. Just keep building up your abilities and encourage yourself to keep working on how to be more decisive.
4. Analyze Your Past Decisions To See Where Things When Wrong
Again, you don’t have to berate yourself for making the wrong decisions. Still, you shouldn’t gloss over your errors entirely either. As you learn to be more decisive, it’s crucial to be kind to yourself.
At the same time, you also want to be mindful of what you are doing and what mistakes you are repeating. This way you make better choices in the future.
If you see that you are making similar decisions with the same poor outcomes, take some time to think over what you have done. Figure out what went wrong, and see where you can make improvements.
Again, failure is a part of learning. You don’t need to create negativity around this experience. Instead, each time you don’t get something right, think of it as a chance for you to be better down the line.
It’s not easy to change your thinking about failure. However, if you implement this kind of attitude and are open to growth and development, you will make better decisions in your life.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to see where you have gone wrong. So if you feel a little lost, ask someone close to you for help or perspective. It never hurts to get a second opinion on something you have done. The people closest to you know you the best, so they could give you great advice.
5. Get All The Information Necessary To Make Informed Decisions
Once you get better at making small decisions, you can start deciding what to do with more important aspects of your life. You want to be efficient and quick with your choices, but you don’t want to make any large or life-changing choices without prior information.
Knowledge is power after all. Understanding the potential outcomes of the decisions you are making will help you make the best possible decisions.
You don’t have to obsess over each choice you make and all the possible outcomes. Just prepare yourself enough so that you can make an informed decision.
For instance, if you are looking to change career paths or college majors, you’ll definitely want to do some research on possible options. As you investigate you could also, write down the pros and cons of each choice. This will help give you further insights.
Really though, when you plan ahead and look into your potential paths, you create less chaos in the decision-making process. This helps significantly and also keeps you from panicking while making a choice.
Additionally, it can also speed up the process as you already have a good idea of what you want to do.
However, don’t get stuck in this stage. You can only gather so much information for yourself. Some decisions in life don’t give you the opportunity to thoroughly plan.
Problems can come up out of nowhere, and there is nothing you can do. You just have to make a choice. So, acquire what knowledge you can to make the most informed decision possible. This way you can take necessary actions to live a more productive and successful life.
6. Follow Your Instincts When Working To Be More Decisive
It isn’t wrong to go with your gut feeling. In fact, it might be better to trust your instincts when making a decision. Sometimes, the logical part of your brain needs some time to catch up with the more emotional part of your mind and body.
You might not be aware of it, but your brain is designed to process information and assess situations quickly. Without you knowing, the mind is already working out what to do.
While gut instinct isn’t always right, there is a reason people lean into them. Scientists have even studied gut instincts and suggest that these feelings can steer you away from danger, and even solve some of your problems.
You don’t need to listen to your gut feeling every time, but it is worthy of consideration and can even help you be more decisive.
7. Think Realistically If Fear Is Holding You Back – What Is The Worst Possible Outcome?
Sometimes a lack of decisiveness comes from fear. You might fear what could happen if you make the wrong decision. Maybe you worry that you are one bad decision from losing everything, your money, your job, your time.
It’s possible that this could happen, of course. And there are inherent risks with any choice you make. So you need to think about the consequences of your decisions.
However, you should not let these ruminations turn into full-blown panic. In the end, your fear of failure could end up halting the decision-making process and prevent you from acting entirely. This could potentially result in worse outcomes.
It’s natural to be anxious and think of what could go wrong. But you don’t want to entertain these thoughts for too long. This could paralyze and keep you from living a happy life.
Sometimes, you just have to act even if you are scared. If you can’t get yourself to come to a decision, though, try thinking about your situation realistically. This doesn’t apply to all cases, but in many circumstances, you might be exaggerating your fears.
If you look closely at what could actually happen and don’t let your fear run wild, you might see that making a choice isn’t so bad. It might actually be better to choose to do something than live stuck in your own fears. Or even worse, feelings of regret from not making a decision.
So catalog your options and look at them objectively. Most likely, your life won’t come to an end if you make the wrong choice. And remember that people do make mistakes in life.
No one makes perfect decisions all the time. That isn’t possible for humans. You can only do what you can with what you have.
Overall, a willingness for you to want to be more decisive is a great first step. Your choice already puts you on the right track to being more successful in your life.
If you are able to use that momentum throughout each decision and look at your life in a more realistic way, you can really change your situation for the better.
The realization that there are 86,400 seconds each day. What are you doing today, so that tomorrow you are a step closer to where you want to be? If not now, then when?
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